Top tips for choosing the ceremony that’s right for you
When choosing your wedding venue its important to bear in mind what sort of ceremony the venue can accommodate. The best venues are those with both a choice of civil ceremony spaces and a Church on site.
If you want to say ‘I Do’ in a traditional church ceremony then you will need to establish a connection with your chosen church by attending services for at least 6 months. So, if you choose a venue some distance from home with a church nearby or even better a church on-site then try to select a venue with accommodation on site or a b and b close by so that you can travel down the night before.
There’s nothing worse than being held up in a traffic jam on the morning when you should be discussing your wedding with the vicar!
Before opting for a church ceremony have a long talk with the vicar as well – if you regularly worship in a happy clappy sort of place then a high church ceremony with bells and smells might not be to too your taste.
Think about the music that’s important to you on your special day –in most Church’s music is restricted to hymns accompanied by a piano or organ plus a choir. You can’t simply turn up with a harpist or string quartet without the vicar’s permission.
Church ceremony’ s can also take a bit longer than civil ceremonies – which can be something to think about if your ceremony is later in the day and you want to have enough time for a leisurely drinks reception!
A civil ceremony is simply a non-religious, legal marriage, which is presided over by a legal official instead of a religious one. The form of the ceremony and the words that you say – including the all-important ‘I Do’ moment is very similar to a church ceremony with an exchange of rings, the saying of vows and ‘you may now kiss the bride’ bit!
The big bonus about hosting a civil ceremony rather than a religious one is that you can personalize it into a celebration that is special and unique to the two of you – and incorporate items such as special pieces of music, poems and readings. You are also free in most cases to decorate the space in the way that you want.
Unlike a church ceremony you do not have to attend services for 6 months to qualify although you will have to serve a notice of marriage.
What are the next steps
Choosing your wedding venue will set all of these plans into place – does your dreamy country house venue offer both a space for civil ceremony’s and a church ceremony or both. Take this into consideration when choosing the location for your special day. Styling- do you want to be super extra with floods of flowers and candles- if so, this may better suit a civil ceremony location. Secondly choose your vibe- a Church event is much more formal and based around the traditional readings and hymns, a civil ceremony however can allow you to walk down the aisle rocking out to your favorite tunes. Both ceremonies have so many positives its hard to choose, we suggest looking at both and hopefully you will fall in love with one space (or both in that case flip a coin)